Six ways to look like youre in charge

Six ways to look like youre in chargeSix ways to look like youre in chargeYou knowhow when certain people enter a room, they command the attention of everyone they interact with?We want you to be that person at in the boardroom and at the cocktail party.Heres how to do it.Get practicingThe secret to handhabung nervousness is this instead of fighting it off or distracting yourself, acknowledge that youre nervous and feel it thoroughly. That will free up your mind to actually focus on the presentation, instead of how you appear during the presentation. Admit you fear being judged, and move on.Then practice. If something is familiar, its much less likely to make you nervous.Marjorie Lee North wrote about nervousness and practice in an article on the blog for Harvard Professional Development.All people feel some physiological reactions like pounding hearts and trembling hands. Do not associate these feelings with the sense that you will perform poorly or make a fool of yourself. Some ner ves are good. The adrenaline rush that makes you sweat also makes you more alert and ready to give your best performance. Sheadds, the best way to overcome anxiety is to prepare, prepare, and prepare some more. Take the time to go over your notes several times. Once you have become comfortable with the material, practice- a lot. Videotape yourself, or get a friend to critique your performance.Shake hands properly and make eye contactMake your first impression count when you get to themeeting. First impressions can be powerful.Deborah L. Jacobs wrote about how you should start off witha proper handshake in a 2012 Forbes article.Most meetings start with a cordial handshake. Put out your full hand, avoiding the half-handed (and halfhearted) grip, which can feel like a cold fish. Shake firmly, but dont make it a bone crusher. Maintain eye contact and smile as you greet your new potential contact, Jacobs writes.Be relaxedA sense ofcalm can go a long way. Mindfulness and meditation are re liable techniques that work for many people, and both are based on simply breathing.Joshua Ehrlich, founder of the Global Leadership Council, wrote about coaching a woman to improve her executive presence at work in a 2011 Harvard Business Review article.Calm is the foundation of presence - a tall order for most busy executives. To maintain a peaceful center, Amy learned to use breath-awareness as a barometer of her anxiety. She was able to speed up and slow down intentionally without negatively impacting her clarity or relationships. No longer abrupt or impulsive, she could set boundaries, handle interruptions and ensure she had time to think under stress, Ehrlich wrote.Be aware of body languageJennifer Cohen wrote about the power of body language inEntrepreneur. The hardest part, frequently, is not posing - which can look inauthentic - but instead learning to pay attention to your body and those of others and how theyre positioned.Like checking your rear view mirror, its vital to take stock of what isnt in front of you in a conversation. What are they avoiding talking about? How are they holding-gesellschaft themselves? Are they leaning forward? Are they drawing back or folding their arms and legs? Take these factors into account when you respond. And remember that this advice goes double for you. Like your expression and your gestures, your body language will communicate wordlessly with your audience, Cohen writes.The best body language for confidence is simple good posture with shoulders back, looking people straight in the eye.Get others to focus on you- not your slidesPowerPoint is the enemy of charisma. To command a room, you have to address the room.Mary Rezek offers a tip to help peoplefocus you while youre giving a PowerPoint presentation in a recent Inc. article.When you really want the audience to focus, hit the B key on your computer to black out the screen. In Europe, this is the N key. Youll then become the center of the room - the visual. With all eyes and ears on you - the speaker - the audience is listening to you and not reading the slide, Rezek writes.Say it, butwith feeling this timeThis may seem obvious, but the key to being listened to is not to talk too much. Say what you need to say, keep your sentences short, and most importantly end your sentences. Many people mutter or trail off, which makes you look or sound weak.Diane Gottsman cautions against speaking in questions in a 2016 HuffPost article.Many people unwittingly turn an opinion or statement into a question by using upspeak. For example Based on my research, our new marketing strategy will benefit our bottom line within months?Gottsman writes.Make it a point to own your words and speak with assurance, she advises.There are ways to get people to hear you out- just make sure you make an earnest effort to do the same for them, and see their perspective as well.